I see so many people in early recovery who want to sit on the pity pot and believe that they can somehow still recover from addiction or alcoholism.  This is not the case and no one who is feeling sorry for themselves is going to make it in recovery.  The problem with self pity is that it gives you a gigantic excuse to go get drunk or high.

The best way to combat self pity is to create a zero tolerance policy with yourself.  This is a mental game that you have to engage in and if you do it right then it will set you free.  The idea is to simply make a strong pact with yourself that you are not going to allow yourself to sit around and sing sad love songs no matter what.  The second you realize that you have slipped into “self pity mode” you instantly shut it down.

Quite simply, you do not allow yourself to go there.  Period.

This is tough at first because you will initially feel like you are depriving yourself of something.  This is not true however and if you persist with it then you will realize that you are not missing out on anything when you put a stop to self pity in your life.

Shut it down.  No more sad love songs.  Period.